September 29, 2020

Tonight the presidential debates start and, therefore, so does the home stretch of the 2020 election season. Jules is an intelligent, insightful, passionate person and she brings that same passion to following, and participating in, politics. She cares…deeply. She reads the New York Times, follows educated and informed people on twitter and does her homework on issues and candidates. To say she is a Democrat is to sell her short. She is way too deeply thought to labeled anything – especially given the state of political parties these days. But she cares about things like the state of the environment, women’s issues (she marched on D.C. in a pink hat), and health care and practices everything she preaches. And she is going to watch the presidential debate tonight. At least part of it.

I think I’ll watch porn instead…

Not that I don’t care. I do. I really do. But I already know who I am going to vote for. And I am betting that you, dear reader, know who you are going to vote for as well. So why debate? I mean really…what are we going to learn that we don’t already know?

Full disclosure, I am a registered Independent. I haven’t always been. Over the last 35 years, I have been registered as both Republican and Democrat and have bounced back and forth with irreverent frequency. I was last a Democrat in 2008 so I could vote for Obama in the primary. After the election that year I immediately switched back. I was a Republican in law school in the early ’90s. My law school roomie and I started the first chapter of the Federalist Society at Villanova Law School. (If you don’t know what that is, look it up.) I was on a first-name basis with Len Leo. (Look him up too…) Worked on Clarence Thomas’s prep for his senate confirmation hearings one summer in D.C. I even brought Nino Scalia to Villanova to speak and got to hang out with him for a while. (He was kind of a dick…but I always enjoyed his written dissents). Pretty impressive conservative credentials, if I do say so myself. That said, I have, over the years, felt myself evolving more and more into the neo-hippie I am now. Point is, I have a fairly complicated political palate. I have voted for Republicans (George the First), Democrats (love me some Obama – twice!), and even the Green Party (when the choice between George the Second and Al was just too much of an insult). But I know who I am going to vote for this time.

So I’m gonna watch porn instead. And not just any porn, by the way. But good porn. Artsy, classy porn. Erica Lust is the director if you must know. Yes, her nom de plume is a little sketchy but she makes amazing indie art erotic cinema. She is Swedish and is based out of Barcelona. It doesn’t get much sexier than that. Jules and I have subscribed to her site for a few years now. The actors are multi-cultural and look like real people. There are American actors too, but they are not exceptional just by virtue of being American but are an equal and important part of a diverse cast. Her world is big and colorful and, while she may present things well outside of my experience and maybe taste, she is welcoming and curious. There is not just passion in her work but also compassion. Yes, it is still porn. But there is actual truth to it (and yes there is such a thing). And honesty (yep that really exists too). It conveys acceptance and celebration of how people are different by depicting people exploring those differences and finding common ground. And if I want to see the opposite of all of that, I know exactly where to find it.

So I’m gonna watch porn instead. And when the debate is over, Jules will come up to our room – stressed out and exhausted. Maybe we can just relax and watch some porn together for a little while to help take her mind off things….

And I think there are supposed to be two more debates after this one.

Sweet……

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